Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Love is a Choice

On the day that we got married, I never knew what love would entail. I never knew the requirements or what it would ask of my husband and I. Like many others, I had unrealistic expectations about the whole thing. Somehow, over the years, my mind had been programmed to view love as a feeling. But I was wrong and I'm glad God opened my eyes sooner than later.

During the course of our first year of marriage, I quickly came to learn that love was undoubtedly a choice. It was a choice that was made up of a million little choices. A choice that went far beyond the vows we made that day. A choice that had the power to make or break our relationship. A choice that I'd be asked to make day in and day out, no matter how I felt.

I was asked to be patient. I was asked to be kind. I was asked not to envy or boast. I was asked to choose humility over pride and to honor at all times. I was asked to be selfless, to be generous. I was asked to be slow to anger and to keep no records of past wrongs. I was asked to delight in all that is righteous and to keep rejoicing in the truth. I was asked to protect and to trust; to hope and to persevere. Furthermore, I was asked to replicate God's heart for my husband for all of my days.

Our marriages should mirror the relationship that exists between Christ and His people. This union was designed to reflect the love, the mercy and the grace that God pours out on us all. His love is unconditional and irrevocable, just as ours should be. It's such a beautiful testimony of forgiveness, redemption and total acceptance. I truly believe that God can use a marriage as a form of ministry since it echos His attributes and ultimately brings Him glory in the process. So awesome!

Learning this has made all the difference in the way my husband and I view our relationship. I know that we're both bound to make mistakes and there will be times that we hurt one another. It's just nice to know that when we do fall short, we'll be met with open arms and an understanding heart instead of making each other feel condemned. I understand that I'll never be the "perfect" wife, but I do want to be a wife who radiates the love of Christ and strives to love fiercely until my dying day.


  1. I love love love this!
    Like way love! I recently just found God in our marriage and the transformation is night and day!
    So happy for you! :)

  2. I LOVE this!!! I always tell people your wedding isn't your marriage. Your wedding day is the circus and the marriage is the rest of your life.

  3. It's so true that love is a choice we make and that it's filled with many tiny choices along the way! Beautifully said. :)